advice of 65 year old mental health nurse to patients of various ages... well, the human condition never changes. when you get to a certain age you are wise to choose what you wish to change about yourself, if anything at all, rather than listening to the world. you are fine as you are anyway. for young people, well, attend to what is most important to your own development as a being. you have to work out what that is, for you. the great thing about not committing suicide, or of having silly failed attempts, is that, generically, as we age, especially beyond 50, is that we get happier. this is the story of humanity. there is nothing wrong with being happier. there is nothing wrong with doing the hard yards. that's what we all have always done. at the same time, respect those who choose to go. if you study grief, well, suicide matters in the heart and mind of those who remain after you for a year or so, then they will just grieve for you the same as if a car accident or a cancer took you from us. that's the truth of it. that's all we can do. respect.